
The other day on Facebook, I shared a meme that the White House’s official X account posted the day after the unauthorized invasion of Venezuela.
The meme was a black-and-white picture of President Trump striding out of a limousine with the letters FAFO across the bottom: Fuck Around and Find Out.
“I miss grown-ups,” I wrote.
We’ve been in this era of government-by-shit-posting for so long, it’s hard to grasp how outrageous this was. Putting aside the fact that the strike was unauthorized by Congress, that American should not be in the business of regime change, that the Trump administration apparently has no plan for Venezuela going forward—this was an act of war. It was the use of America’s military to kidnap a president, leaving chaos in its wake. It will probably lead to American troops on the ground in Venezuela to protect Trump’s precious oil. People almost undoubtedly will die.
It’s not the time to post jokey memes that make Trump look like an action hero.
That was hardly an isolated incident.
Scrolling through just the last couple of months of White House posts I saw another meme of Trump as Mr. Clean—with hair, because they don’t even know how to meme correctly—clad in a tight white tee-shirt, his arms folded to reveal rippling muscles, his smirking face completely yassified. “There’s no trade like Mr. Tariff,” the meme read.
(Honestly, if you can decipher the joke here, you’re smarter than I am. Tariff doesn’t rhyme with clean. Trump, as mentioned, has hair—of sorts. I guess they liked the idea of giving Trump jacked arms?)
Further down the feed is a post that the White House RTed from Trump himself. It’s an AI rendering of Illinois governor JB Pritzker, blown up to look obese, holding a cheeseburger and a sign that reads, “Chicago doesn’t need help. We have everything under control.” Behind him, Chicago burns and dead bodies are strewn about. It’s the “Everything is Fine” meme but make it fratty and cruel.
And I certainly don’t recommend so much as sightseeing on the vile feed of America’s foremost large adult son, Don Jr. A recent post of his depicted a children’s book cover featuring Franklin the Turtle. Franklin Drives By Tim Walz’s House and Calls Him Retarded is the book’s title.
“Franklin is the BASED turtle,” Don Jr. wrote, undoubtedly imagining a million MAGA high-fives.
But beyond the juvenile and offensive memes, there’s something far more sinister happening with our administration’s ubiquity on social media. They use it as a tool to divide us, to radicalize the impressionable, to sow confusion and distrust.
The recent tragic death of Renee Good is a classic example.
Any normal administration in the past would’ve posted something along the lines of: “We are aware of the death of U.S. citizen Renee Good at the hands of ICE. We are examining all the evidence, urge people not to rush to judgement, and assure you that justice will be served. It is as a time like this that we must come together as a nation and not allow this tragic event to divide us.”
Instead, this, in part, is what Trump posted:
“I have just viewed the clip of the event which took place in Minneapolis. It is a horrible thing to watch. The woman screaming was, obviously, a professional agitator, and the woman driving the car was very disorderly, obstructing and resisting, who then violently, willfully, and viciously ran over an ICE officer, who seems to have shot her in self defense. Based on the attached clip, it is hard to believe he is alive. . .” (This is a classic, “believe me, not your lying eyes” moments, as the ICE officer who shot Good was walking around after the incident without so much as a limp.)
Meanwhile, Vice President Vance, who spends more time on X than a typical 20something social media director, has spent the bulk of his days defending the murder and disparaging the press.
“What the press has done in lying about this innocent law enforcement officer is disgusting. You should all be ashamed of yourselves,” he tweeted.
It’s not just Vance, by the way. They’re all volume tweeters. Scroll through the feeds of Stephen Miller, Musk, Ted Cruz, Trump himself—if they had real jobs, they’d be fired for goofing off at work.
“The left is the party of murder,” Elon Musk tweeted, in the wake of the assassination of Charlie Kirk.
Later he added, “If they won’t leave us in peace, then our choice is fight or die.”
(Do these people ever—ever?—stop and think about the insane recklessness of their words? This is real life, not a damn video game.)
Away from Twitter, but on Fox and at Kirk’s funeral, Stephen Miller, as is his wont, foamed at the mouth about “the forces of wickedness and evil” (Democrats, presumably). “You have no idea the dragon you have awakened,” he told the crowd at Kirk’s funeral. (Was that before or after “Ava Maria”?)
It’s taken me a while to fully grasp the fact that we have a far-right regime in place that has not even the slightest interest in being the government for all but I’m fully there now.
And here’s the thing, call me naïve, but in my 50-plus years on the planet, it’s never been like this—even if the president was merely going through the motions of uniting us, he would at least try—which I’ve come to believe is important. Turns out, the optics of civility, decency, and gravitas are necessary for a functioning society.
And I want to gather a group of Gen Z and Gen Alpha kids and shout to them, IT WASN’T ALWAYS LIKE THIS!
Presidents used to say comforting things. Public officials used to advise caution and cooler heads and try to tamp down inflammatory rhetoric, not turn it up to eleven. Obama was called the Consoler-in-Chief. Hillary Clinton planned on wearing purple to her acceptance speech, had she won the presidency, to show that she was the president for the whole country—both blue and red states. George Bush visited a mosque after 9/11.
On Christmas this year, Trump gave his annual heartwarming message, lambasting the “radical left scum that are doing everything possible to destroy our country.”
I’m so tired.
It’s axiomatic that the older you get, the more you realize the concept of “adulthood”—this period of life where you suddenly become a model of experience, wisdom, and probity—is a lie. Everyone is essentially faking it till they die.
But I miss people even pretending to be adults. I miss the days when maturity was considered a virtue for our elected leaders. I don’t want the fucking White House shit posting. I don’t want our vice president to be a 24/7 “debate me, bro” guy. I want leaders who bring us together in a crisis. I want elected officials who realize how radical, how un-American Trump is and try to stop him. I miss politicians who actually care about the wellbeing of the American people. I miss leaders who remain calm and clear-eyed in a crisis. I want a Supreme Court that exercises its power to limit the president’s power. I miss civil debate. I miss compromise. I miss kindness. I miss seriousness.
I miss grown-ups.
As always, the opinions in this blog are mine alone.


